And then I realised what's wrong.....!!!

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One day after getting back from the office and feeling exhausted she said, “I am piled up with work that I don’t even have time for myself.”

I believed she is annoyed with her hectic work profile so I replied, “Talk to your manager about this and he may shorten your work load.”

Now, she said, “Who knows better about my manager you or me? Do not advise me on this, I know what to do.”

Again in an act of convincing her I said, “See I feel you are working too hard and not getting proper recognition, better quit it and do what you like.”

She became anxious and said, “I never said that I don’t like this job. I like my job, but they expect me to change everything  at a moment’s notice.”

 “Don’t listen to them. Just do what you can do.”

“Yes I am! I totally forgot to call my friend today”

“Don’t worry about it, she will understand.”

“You don’t have any idea what she is going through, she needs me.”

“You worry too much that’s why you are so unhappy.”

“I am not always unhappy. Can’t you just listen to me?”

“I am listening!”

“Why do I even bother?”

At the end of the conversation, both of us were frustrated and helpless. I was thinking what and where it went wrong. All I did was to make her comfortable but it didn’t work. She on the other hand was more frustrated than when she arrived home seeking companionship.

After many misunderstandings and arguments, I understood one thing and that’s what I am attempting to share it here. Men and Women are two different animals and they hold their own opinions, thoughts and works. Both of them have to realize and respect their feelings only then they will start enjoying each other with respect.

If you watch the above conversation, she seems worn out with her work and hence trying to get rid of her tension, she needs to speak to someone she believes. And then she chose me, to speak and drain-out all her feelings. What I should have done is to sit and listen to her, word by word instead of interrupting her by whatever means. Whereas what I thought is, she was in some sort of trouble and hence stepped in and gave some expert advice. Moreover, I expect her to accept my so-called expert opinion in order to tackle with her life which she didn’t.

Giving advice and solving the problem is the trademark quality of a man. He feels satisfied when his advice solves a problem, be it their own or others. In the same way, speaking-out is an identified quality of a woman. If she is in stress, she talks. If she is happy, she talks. If she is sad, she talks. Same goes with all other emotions. Whatever the issue is, she just wants to talk, talk and talk; all she wants is a trustworthy soul to listen that’s it.

So guys, simply listen to your girls, nothing else. And girls cope up with your guy’s expert advice, because that’s how they deal with things.

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For further understanding of opposite sex spend sometime reading works of John Gray.